Writer: Chardee Sneed

Chardee Sneed responds to the question What do you personally struggle with in dealing with society and what do you think it means to be a woman in today’s society?”  Here is what she has to say:

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Like many people, I struggle with honoring my authentic self.

From a young age, I was taught to be polite, always smile no matter what and be a lady. However, I quickly found out that I have no desire to be perfect. I would often talk too much in class, participate in “tomboyish” activities and speak my mind no matter how brutally honest I was. Society teaches us to smile even when we are not genuinely happy within and to act confident even when we have no concept of true self-worth.

Unfortunately, some are so worried about looking a certain way they neglect what’s within.  I myself, have always been left feeling inadequate and less than a “woman” because of this. I was unable to replace what I thought would make me seem cool, smart, and attractive to others, with my true feelings for myself.

In today’s society, being a women can mean being perceived as an object, an archetype or something of insignificance.

As a young woman, if I had discovered my talents, I am not sure where I would be today. I feel younger girls have to work much harder to find what makes them happy and healthy. Having mentors that valued me as a person first and then as a female, allowed me to understand my own potential.  Finding my passions in writing is what helped me to see that my “happy” was not defined by what others saw in me. What defines me is how I honor myself in every hour of every day.  One of my biggest hopes, despite what society tells us, is that all women realize that there is beauty in their own imperfections.

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